Hey, there!

I haven’t been to the administrator panel of this blog for more than more than six months now. That’s because I already moved to Blogger, and last September, I purchased my own domain: www.davaomommy.com

So why am I making a new post now, after all those changes? Well, for the past few days, I noticed an “influx” of new followers. Please note that this influx refers to less than five people. Hah! But seriously, I’m wondering why. I don’t even check my WordPress account anymore!

If you followed me or if you want to, I’ll appreciate it deeply if you take time to check and follow my new blog instead, www.davaomommy.com. That’s where I blog now, and you won’t be disappointed since I blog very regularly; I live in it.

Thank you! And see you there! 🙂

Baptism Expenses

Someone asked me how much I spent in total for Y’s baptism last Sunday. In my opinion, it was a pretty good celebration, simple but we had a good time (except for the church incident). I knew we made the right choices, especially in the reception’s venue. Here’s a basic rundown of the expenses we made for the baptism.

Church – The baptism took place in St. Mary’s Parish, Buhangin, Davao City. We had to pay P150 for the baptismal fee and P20/ each for the godmothers and godfathers. Then, we had to buy the baptismal cloth, which costs P40, and candles, which they sold for P10/ 3 pieces.

Total cost: P510

Inside the church

Reception – After the baptism, we went to Grand Menseng Hotel for the reception. I was initially wary of going to a hotel for a reception because I thought it would be costly. However, we inquired and found out their rates are the same as other buffet restaurants. They charge P289/person, which includes a free round of drinks. They currently have a promo, too. For every eight person, one person is free of charge! Great!

Total cost: P4,335

One of our tables

Baptismal outfit – I refuse to have my son baptized wearing an itchy Barong Tagalog. It may look good, but I worry about my son’s eczema flaring. The grandparents hunted for a cute outfit and made me buy the perfect one. It’s a tuxedo romper from Doomagic, which costs P595. We also bought a pair of lace-up brown shoes from Zara Baby. I think it’s an overrun pair because it only costs P450. We bought all of these at a baby store in Gaisano Mall, Just One Year.

Total cost: P1,045

THE outfit

Giveaways – Finally, a Filipino event is not complete without giveaways. I didn’t like the idea of giving away figurines or little baby bottles because the guests won’t be able to use them. I decided to give away chocolates. We were supposed to order a batch of chocolate lollipops but we ran out of time. So we decided to play with words and bought cheap chocolates and lollipops. We then wrapped them in blue paper and tulle, and made “Thank You” cards. Voila!

Total cost: A little over P300

One of the giveaways with a monkey card

Taking everything into consideration, the grand total of expenses is just P6,190, or a little over P6,000. It proves that you can have a good celebration without having to burn a hole into your pocket haha. I hope I was able to help those who are planning for a special occasion!

Having a newborn is not love at first sight!

I just found out that my good friend, G, is having a boy. I’m stoked to find out that we will both have baby boys; Y is going to have a playmate for sure!

After that brief conversation with her, I reminisced the first months of having Y. Believe me; it was NOT love at first sight. You should consider that I didn’t see him immediately after I gave birth for two reasons. One reason is that I gave birth via CS operation. The second reason is that he had to be examined for almost a week because he ate his meconium — or poop.

Yes, I wasn’t kidding when I said it was not love at first sight. Television advertises these months as months full of love, where you see the parents looking dreamily at their newborn baby when she sleeps. No way, Jose! During those months, I barely had enough time to brush my teeth, let alone look dreamily at Y.

It wasn’t love at first sight. I breathe a sigh of relief when he sleeps because that means I could finally have my lunch — at 4pm. Breastfeeding was not my friend because it really hurt at first. For more than two months, sleep means a three-hour stretch at night with occasional feedings in between. And if Y had his way, that means no sleep at all.

It wasn’t love at first sight. If it was, I wouldn’t spend most nights crying with Y. When he cries, I feel so helpless that I could only cry with him. As they say, if you can’t beat them, join them. I can joke about it now, but I really, honestly never felt as worse then. What made the experience even harder was the fact that Y’s father was not with me — another story for another day.

It wasn’t love at first sight. The income that you once thought was more than enough suddenly couldn’t last for another week. You have to buy diapers (a ton!), baby clothes, and if you’re formula-feeding, pricey formula milk. As a breastfeeding mom, I didn’t escape the expenses, too, as I needed to buy a breast pump and bottles. And what would eat the remainder of your income are the never-ending vaccinations and trips to the doctor.

It wasn’t love at first sight. During the early months, Y was a terribly colicky baby. Don’t be fooled; colic doesn’t mean gas. It won’t go away when you burp the baby a million times each day. It won’t go when you use specially-designed bottles that cost a fortune. It will only go away when the baby’s body decides to. And I just couldn’t wait until it’s over.

Thankfully, it went away when Y turned 4 months old. These days, he only cries when he’s hungry, sleepy, or bored — the usual culprits. This post is not meant to scare my friend or any new or future moms who might be reading this. This is supposed to give them a reality check and prepare them for the real deal. Having a newborn is not all coos and cuddles; in fact, those will barely happen. It’s a time that will test your strength and patience as a mother, as a wife, and as a woman.

Yes, it wasn’t love at first sight. However, relationships that go with love at first sight barely last. The best relationships are those with patient courting. By the time I finally fell in love with Y, I fell hard. And I know I’ll never love anyone as much as I love this poop machine.